During the holidays, we're often surrounded by messages of joy, celebration, and togetherness. But, it's important to remember that for many people, this time of year can be really tough.
If you’re struggling or feeling overwhelmed, know that you’re not alone. It’s completely normal to experience feelings like:
- Financial stress
- Loneliness or isolation
- Grief and loss
- Unrealistic expectations
Whatever challenges we might face, it’s okay to acknowledge them. And it’s important to remember that it’s okay to reach out for support.
Feeling your feelings
Navigating our feelings can be tough, especially during the holidays. We might feel pressure around feeling joyful and festive, which might make us think that not feeling great is ‘wrong’ (which it definitely is not!). By giving ourselves permission to feel however we feel, and sharing that with loved ones, friends or colleagues, might also let go of some of that pressure. When we do share how we feel with people we trust, this can often create a safe space for others to do the same.
Do what feels right for you
The holidays are often filled with expectations and comparisons, and it’s really normal to struggle with this. It’s important to remember to prioritise what matters most to you. Whether that’s taking part in festivities, or finding comfort in a cosy spot with a good book and a cup of tea. There is no right way to experience the holidays, and each person’s experience will be different. Remember to be kind to yourself and choose what feels right for you.
Make time for yourself
In the middle of the hustle and bustle, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and maybe stressed or worried. Remember, it’s okay to take time for yourself. Prioritising your wellbeing and setting healthy boundaries can be a good way to avoid feeling burnt out.
Set financial boundaries
Navigating finances, especially during the holiday season when outgoings can increase, can feel difficult and stressful. It can be useful for us to set budgets for things we plan to spend on, and it’s okay to communicate with your loved ones about financial boundaries. Remember that you’re not alone in this, and many people feel concerned about money during the holidays.
Feeling connected
Feeling isolated or lonely, especially during the festive period can be hard. Sometimes, just reaching out to friends or family, even a simple text or call, can make a big difference to how we feel. We might also feel lonely even when we have lots of people around us, whether we’re in a relationship, or part of a family, or community, we can still feel lonely – especially if we don’t feel understood or supported by the people around us.
If you’re able to, take a moment to check in with someone you trust and can connect with. Remember, there may also be community events taking place near you, or support groups that can help you meet new people and create connections. Hub of Hope is a useful place to find local support.
Remembering those who have passed
In the midst of the festive spirit, feelings of grief and missing a loved one can be incredibly difficult. It’s important to acknowledge those feelings and give ourselves space and permission to grieve. It might be helpful to take part in small, meaningful things such as lighting a candle in their memory, sharing special stories, or taking part in activities they loved. These small things can all bring comfort when we’re struggling with loss.
Ask for help
If you find the holiday period especially difficult, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. It’s okay to ask for help, and there is always someone to listen.
NHS Talking Therapies
Asking for help can be difficult, but when we’re struggling, getting the right support can help us to understand our problems, work through difficult emotions, and develop ways to feel better.
NHS Talking Therapies at Everyturn – find out if we provide talking therapies in your area
Find an NHS Talking Therapies service – find your local NHS Talking Therapies provider
If you’re in need of urgent help or need someone to talk to right now, you can contact:
- Samaritans (24/7) – Call 116 123
- SHOUT 24/7 text line – text ‘SHOUT’ to 85258
- NHS 111 (24/7) – call 111
If you’re living in Newcastle or Northumberland, you can visit our Ashington Safe Haven, housed in The Bothy. Here, you can access mental health support on the high street, whether you’re feeling low or just need to talk. You don’t need an appointment, you can drop by at any time between 2pm – 10pm, 365 days a year.
If you’d prefer not to visit in person, you can also book a call to chat with one someone in our compassionate Ashington Safe Haven team. Click here to find out more about virtual appointments.
